When you do something other than the thing that you know you need to be doing you are buffering. Buffering is when you avoid your priorities, commitments, or boundaries because following through feels bad. On today’s podcast I’m talking about buffering your emotions. I will share several examples from my clients, and myself, on what it looks like to buffer your emotions and then I will offer you the steps to stop buffering when you realize you’re doing it.
My client, Nicole, shares the long-term results that she has experienced from coaching. Nicole started working with me almost 3 years ago and on today’s podcast she shares how she learned to calm herself and the impact of those “calming” tools, what it took for her to lean into conflict and how that transformed her work and what it has taken for her to truly make time for the things that matter.
Nobody promised ease in life. Nobody said being a working mom, a parent, a partner, finding work-life balance, getting a fulfilling job or putting up boundaries would be easy. So what would happen if you dropped that expectation and moved into radical acceptance that things are meant to be hard? In today’s podcast, I’m sharing how when you stop fighting the “hard” in life, you open up to problem solve differently so you reach your goals faster and with more ease.
On today’s episode I am answering 3 listener questions: How do you and your ambitious spouse BOTH make strides in your careers at the same time without neglecting the family? How do you stay confident even when there is a gap in your resume? How do I get my friends and coworkers to focus on the mindset of balance?
What does it take to start moving your marriage up the priority list (even if your spouse does not)? To answer this question, I invited life and marriage coach, Dr. Chavonne Perotte, to share with us some strategies and tools she uses in her coaching practice. We talk about what it takes to get on the same team so it’s not you against your spouse as you navigate challenges like: how to make household duties and responsibilities more equitable? We talk about creating a culture change in your marriage where you make decisions together as roles and responsibilities shift. And Dr. Chavonne shares about the importance of connection and how to foster it, in just a few minutes a day.
You don’t have to wait until you are burnt-out or so terribly unhappy to make a change. If you want to change jobs, go after a promotion or change your overworking habits, you can do it right now. In today’s podcast, I offer 5 reasons you should not wait to make a change as well as explain the most likely thing getting in the way of you taking a first step,
“I don’t know how to make him happy.” “I don't want her to cry.” “I need to make sure she understands.” “I don’t want them to feel disappointed.” “I want them to feel like I care.” What do each of these thoughts have in common? They have you trying to control how someone else feels, which is actually something that is never in your control. In today’s podcast I talk about why you should stop trying to make other people feel a certain way and why it's OK to let people feel any emotions (even the icky ones).
Feelings are meant to be felt - this was a new concept for Dr. Skylar Clark. Just over a year ago she moved her family of 6 from one coast to the other, navigating 4 new schools, a new city, new culture, new job and no family in town to help. Skylar came to coaching wanting to create new systems and structures to help her manage life, but instead she left with a toolkit filled with strategies to help her manage, not just her chaotic circumstances, but the chaos inside herself. Listen in as Skylar walks you through the #1 tool she learned in coaching – how to feeling your feelings.
